Are you struggling with an eating disorder? Specialist Bridget Whitlow says help and recovery are at hand.

From emotional eating to anorexia, binge eating to bulimia, eating disorders (EDs) are some of the most mysterious and misunderstood medical conditions of recent times. Although many lesbians assume that EDs are a problem for heterosexual women, lesbian actor Portia de Rossi wrote a book on the subject.

Her 2010 memoir, Unbearable Lightness: A Story of Loss and Gain, details her struggle with anorexia nervosa, revealing that EDs can become a potentially life-threatening affliction regardless of your sexuality. Therapist, active community member, loving mother and wife, and out lesbian Bridget Whitlow specializes in helping people recover from eating disorders.

Clearly, Whitlow is nothing if committed to helping others, and took time out of her hectic schedule to reach out to LOTL readers.

What motivates you to give so much of your time to the cause of eating disorders recovery?

The largest motivator for me is that despite the notable prevalence of eating disorders in all genders and ethnicities, and the fact that they have the highest mortality rate out of all psychiatric diagnoses, eating disorders still remain largely misunderstood—both in society as a whole and in the healthcare community. There is a tremendous need for increased education. Being able to contribute to this, working alongside other passionate people in this field, is incredibly rewarding.

Why is it so important to spread awareness and education about eating disorders?

Because eating disorders remain largely misunderstood. Many harmful myths continue to be held as truth, even among healthcare professionals. With more education on how to identify, intervene appropriately, and properly treat eating disorders, people can recover and get on with their lives.

What are the most important things people need to understand about the nature of eating disorders?

One, eating disorders are not a choice. While we do not know the exact cause of these disorders, research indicates that there is a large genetic component—there is a 50 to 80 per cent heritability risk. Two, eating disorders impact all genders, sexual orientations, and ethnicities. And three, full recovery is absolutely possible!

How can someone be supportive of a loved one who is struggling with an eating disorder? 

The number one thing that people can do is express their concern to their loved ones and help them seek out treatment, consistently and relentlessly. As with any sensitive issue, scaring, blaming, and using threatening words is not helpful.

Talking one-on-one, and using a calm and loving approach will yield the most positive results. Resources and support are available for friends and family, and they can be very helpful in figuring out how to best support your loved one.

What are the steps that someone struggling with an eating disorder can take to get help?

The first steps to getting help include reaching out to someone you trust, telling them what is going on, and asking for support to get additional help. Undeniably, eating disorders thrive in isolation, and letting someone in—someone who knows you and will be with you for the long haul—is incredibly valuable.

The next imperative step is to look for a healthcare provider who specializes in the treatment of eating disorders and who can assess your treatment needs. It is critical that whomever you work with is connected to other specialists and can assist in forming a treatment team.